Infidelity is a
major cause of divorce all over the world. Learning what causes infidelity
to occur and if your marriage is showing warning signs is the first step
in combating love affairs outside your marriage from ever happening. Many
of us believe that our spouses leave us for younger, better looking, or
even richer partners. But, this is not the real case.

An affair can begin when someone gives your spouse the attention
that you are not giving, are more interesting than you are, and may even
be listening more to their needs. All marriages will become stale if you
both do not put an effort into preserving the love and lust that you have
for one another. A marriage is a union between two people that desire to
spend the rest of their lives together.

Do you really believe that the marriage license is enough to keep
both of you faithful and in love until death do you part? Every
partnership takes both partners working for the same goal in order to
achieve success. You will hear from many psychologists that a healthy
marriage is one in which both partners are not spending all their time
together. They even go as far to say that couples that do spend all of
their time together are co-dependent on one another. But, I disagree with
this statement entirely.

If you enjoy each others company, activities and are best friends as
well as lovers then I personally see no harm. You can be just as
interested in each other and have many exciting things to talk about even
when you spend many hours together. I believe that there is more trouble
in marriages if both partners have no interest what so ever in activities
that their partner does. If you both go to work in the morning, come back
home and every evening you both go your separate ways to spend time with
your friends, go to club meetings, or sport functions, and then all the
weekends do the same, when are you spending time with each other?

If you are never together you will drift apart. I am not saying that
every marriage is the same and it is fine to have other interests that
your spouse may not have and you should also be able to enjoy them. But,
there should be a happy medium where you both can feel loved, wanted, and
yes needed by your spouse. The most important part of any relationship is
communication. If you are not communicating your spouse is sure to find
someone that can take your place and listen when they want to talk.

Learning to communicate and sharing your feelings will keep your
marriage strong. If you always treat your spouse as you would like them to
treat you in all matters then your marriage has a better chance than if
you are always trying to get them to cater to your feelings and moods.
This marriage is your marriage, and all couples are different in how they
work out their problems, their finances, and the raising of their
children. Just be there for one another and learn to communicate. Be
interesting, spontaneous and loving and your marriage will never have to
face the problems of infidelity.

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